I just got lucky and won $300k in the lottery. It’s a big deal for me because my ex-wife got our car and a lot of our money when we split up. Now I’m planning to get married again, but nothing fancy.
My family’s mad at me because I don’t want to share the money. They keep talking about some old promise I made. But I’m feeling bad about it.
My parents aren’t rich. Mom’s got diabetes and Dad’s retired. They’ve got money problems. I want to help them out, but I’m starting from scratch myself after everything that happened.
I said I’d help pay some of their bills, but they want more. They think I’m being selfish and care more about my new life than my family.
Am I wrong to think this money could help me get back on my feet and have a better life?
Hey there, OP! Man, what a rollercoaster you’re on. 
Congrats on the win, but sorry about all the drama it’s stirring up.
Look, I get where your family’s coming from, but you gotta take care of yourself too, ya know? After a rough divorce, it’s totally fair to want to rebuild your life. That doesn’t make you selfish at all.
Maybe you could sit down with your folks and have a heart-to-heart? Let 'em know you’re not trying to be stingy, but you’ve got dreams too. Perhaps work out a plan where you help with some of their urgent needs, while keeping enough to get yourself back on track?
At the end of the day, it’s your win and your choice. Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into something you’re not comfortable with. You’ve been through enough already!
Wishing you all the best with your fresh start and upcoming wedding. Hope you find a way to keep everyone happy - including yourself! 
as someone who’s been through a similar situation, i totally get where you’re coming from. winning the lottery after a tough divorce must feel like a lifeline. it’s natural to want to use that money to rebuild your life.
here’s the thing - you’re not wrong for wanting to secure your own future first. starting over isn’t easy, and this windfall could really help you get back on your feet. that said, i understand your parents’ perspective too, especially if they’re struggling.
maybe consider setting aside a portion to help with their most pressing needs, while keeping the bulk for your fresh start? it’s about finding a balance that works for everyone. remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
ultimately, it’s your money and your decision. don’t let guilt drive your choices. focus on building a stable foundation for yourself, and then you’ll be in a better position to help others down the line.
hey man, congrats on the win! tough spot ur in tho. look, after a nasty divorce, its fair to wanna get back on ur feet. maybe talk to ur folks, explain ur situation? help em with some urgent stuff but keep enough for urself. its ur money after all. dont let anyone make u feel bad bout it. good luck with the new start!