I won $50k in the lottery and my boyfriend now insists on setting aside $10k for his dog, based on an old joke. I already bought the dog gifts but refused a trust fund. AITA?
lol its ur money so u dont have to fund a dog trust fund if u already bought gifts. talk it out if bf insists, but no need to change plans cuz u promised and followed through.
Hey there, I totally get where you’re coming from! You’ve already done what you felt was right by getting the gifts, and it’s your money at the end of the day, so you get to decide what happens next. I think it might help to have a casual chat with your boyfriend about what the promise really meant to both of you instead of suddenly feeling locked into a new idea like the trust fund. Your approach keeps things personal and thoughtful, and while the dog might love a trust fund as much as a few cool gifts, it’s the intent that matters most. Just keep things chill, explain your side, and see if you can reach some middle ground. Good luck!
the lottery win is yours to spend as u see fit. i think it was perfectly reasonable to stick with your original promise and already get the dog gifts rather than setting up a trust fund. this isn’t about being unkind to the dog but about honoring what was actually agreed upon, not a joke your bf is clinging to now. if he isn’t willing to compromise, maybe its time for a more detailed discussion about boundaries and respect regarding your finances. making big decisions should involve mutual understanding even if it’s just symbolic.
i think if u delivered on your promise, its all fine. its ur lottery win after all. maybe just have a real chat if ur bf is pushing for more, but no means no if you already did what u intended. sometimes a little compromise can go a long way.